Archive for January, 2009

Welcoming negative emotions

Sunday, January 18th, 2009

I’ve just returned from attending the Yoga Journal Conference in San Francisco.  I attend this every January, and always find it to be a healing, inspiring experience.  It is my opportunity to be a student, rather than a teacher – attending classes taught by some of the biggest names in yoga.  I broke the mold this year and took class from teachers that I had not experienced before.  This helps me to hone in on my own teaching style – what I like and what I choose not to do.

Most years, I end up in a pool of tears while holding something like a deep pigeon pose after a vigorous workout.  This is so cathartic and cleansing, and the jewel of our yoga practice.  Yoga is, after all, therapy for the mind and heart, using the body as the vehicle.

This year, there were no tears, but agitation and anxiety seemed to be what sprung a leak.  With our economy and some personal financial setbacks this past year, my body had been harboring anxieties.  So while practicing Yin Yoga, a style where you hold a floor pose for 3-5 minutes, stuff naturally bubbles up.  This is irritating and at the same time, marvelous.  I’m still a bit "jangly," working some of this energy out.

So it is fitting that the last words I heard read in my last class of the weekend were from Rumi:

"This being human is a guest house.  Every morning a new arrival.  A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.  Welcome and entertain them all!  Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably.  He may be clearing you out for some new delight.  The dark thought, the shame, the malice.  Meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.  Be grateful for whatever comes.  Because each has been sent as a guide from beyond."

May you embrace your many emotional guests as they arrive, and be grateful to show them the door when they leave!

Ahhh…a new beginning

Saturday, January 3rd, 2009

Happy New Year!  I don’t know about you, but I’m quite happy to toss off 2008 and begin fresh with new hope for 2009.  It was a challenging year for many, including myself and my loved ones - facing financial hardship, health issues, death, etc.  Yet it is precisely in these challenging times that we find gifts of wisdom, patience, and yielding.  We have the opportunity to open our hearts even further to avoid shutting down altogether.

Through my own ups and downs, I have been quite aware of my increasing tendency to "go with the flow," in the Daoist tradition.  A Daoist lives in harmony with life’s rhythms, accepting everything just as it is – the good, the bad, and the ugly.  In the West, this is misinterpreted as weak, complacent, even lazy.  It is just the opposite.  It is a STRONG choice to allow the flow of life to be what it is.  We act when appropriate, without extraneous effort, and then relax into the outcome, accepting whatever that might be.

A wonderful explanation of this concept of wu wei (non-action) comes from Solala Towler in his book, Embarking on the Way: A Guide to Western Taoism.  He writes:

"To be a Taoist is to remain ‘gentle and weak, tender and yielding.’  In this way we can overcome suffering and the obstacles life thrusts at us.  We can connect with our own ‘true nature,’ our own natural, joyous, childlike selves.  To choose Taoism is to say a great resounding ‘YES!’ to life, to change, to nature, and ultimately, to our own sweet enduring selves, our own unique and special expression of the Tao."

I wish you peace and acceptance with all that 2009 brings your way.